Homeopathy, Reiki Vs The Mind
There is a nice article going around the media today highlighting the potential dangers of homeopathy.
Speaking to some Homeopathist's and their fans it is very clear they will ignore anything that suggests there is a problem with their therapy. What is ironic is that these people will often be strong advocates of the power of the mind and having an open one to match. Yet when it is suggested that it's not the sugar pill that's doing the healing but the power of belief, homeopathist's are quick to try and shoot this down. (Not very open minded is it?)
Personally I don't believe in homeopathy no matter how many anecdotal stories people have. I do though believe in catalysts for the mind to kick in it's own healing strategies and if we could harness that better then just imagine what could be achieved! Also we have to remember that people heal themselves most of the time anyway, by the time they sought out help the body is likely to have already started to sort itself out. How many times have you gone to the Dr and felt a bit embarrassed as those symptoms have started to go or gone completely?
It is a shame that people with careers invested in healing people refuse to open their minds to the power of the brain and what it's potential is at self healing, due to their own self interests. The usual response is to point out medical science flaws and add badly conceived conspiracies to give their alternative therapies extra reinforcement. If a therapist does this then they have usually fallen for the alternative therapy propaganda which is worth billions in revenue and needs to be protected with some terrible misinformation.
I also believe Reiki and other energy therapies are also triggers for self healing which is why it works with some and not others. It never made sense for a universal energy to have preferences on who it could heal or not. It it shown over and over that Reiki does not actually work but healing can happen as the mind can respond to the belief it is being healed. The care and compassion many healers, homeopathist's show can't be underestimated nor can the concept of people feeling relieved that their condition is being treated in some way.
Clients reveal to me their issues often in metaphoric ways; ‘it feels like hot lava in my chest, there is an invisible barrier in my way, there is a knot in my stomach.' If you work with the metaphors it can produce powerful emotional experiences which feels like energy moving in the body. No wonder people believe in Reiki as it can work metaphorically to produce solutions to those feelings. I used to reach and practise Reiki until I realised it was metaphoric and I could get better results using suggestion or as I call it Metaphoric Energy Transformation (MET).
As therapists we cannot hold onto therapies shown not to work but we can embrace as healers the power of the mind and explore as pioneers in how we can trigger self healing in clients. There is nothing more rewarding than seeing a client learn to manage their own metaphoric subconscious messages and work with them to create the results they are looking for.
Whilst my views about therapies are not that popular among the self invested therapist community, (not that I worry about that) it is important that you research the validity of the healing therapy you are seeking help from.
Just to note the therapies I practice and all mind therapies are still under scrutiny for their effectiveness and that is a good thing. Even the most popular therapies promoted by the medical establishment such as CBT, Psychotherapy, Counselling all have their good and bad points. This scrutiny helps us refine our work so the clients benefit. It is a shame some alternative therapy fields claim conspiracy when subjected to the same scrutiny. I think that speaks volumes.
Sex and the Gym
Would you like a more healthier sex life?
How many of you know something needs action but are waiting to be in the mood to do something?
An example is sex.
I work with a lot of clients who want to get back into having a healthy sex life but are waiting to be horny. If we all waited for these mysterious moods to fall into place before having sex then we would be about as sexually active as a Nun.
Spontaneity is the key here and just doing it regardless of mood can trigger the body chemistry which takes you into that sexual zone you used to love so much. Instead of internalising excuses why sex isn't right for right now, focus externally instead on pleasing your partner and just enjoy experimenting from there. Your relationship will be all the better for it.
The same goes for the gym too, it really is just about going without indulging in negative thoughts about why you shouldn't go. As soon as they appear, focus on your surroundings and just go. Always a good idea to have your gym stuff ready so you can just go without getting caught up in fantasy negative thoughts. Your body will love you for it.
Just do it and see what happens. Though both at the same time might be a bit ambitious....but then again.....
Life is way to short for a sh*t sex life and bad health.
If you find this difficult for any reason then please contact me as I could help you with a range of therapies which include hypnotherapy and NLP at my office in Brighton and Hove or online.
Goodbye Anxiety
The anxious voice starts getting louder in your head, then faster, more panicky and more urgent.
It's creating dialogue about what people are thinking about you. It's future predictions of things going horribly wrong make you feel sick so you will do everything you can to avoid that happening. It makes your head spin as it doesn't seem to stop your mind being in overdrive.
You try to think rationally and calmly, even questioning is the stuff you think about true? But it soon jumps back to being loud and forceful convincing you it's all true as it is determined to protect you from the dangers around you.
The voice in your head doesn't stop there, it will make you stronger, more productive, get you to stop being lazy, lose that weight and get those goals reached by being your worst enemy, by being your critic. Tough love is your subconscious belief and it will kick your ass until you do as it commands.
Tightness in the chest, sickness in the stomach, tension in the shoulders and knots in all three. Your mind is determined to keep you ready and alert or danger, getting ready to fight or flight.
Many will relate to the above and there is something important to realise that can help you change this forever.
YOU ARE NOT THAT IMPORTANT!
You are important....but not so important that it's all about you.
Working on this issue can reduce anxiety, stress, anger and depression quite considerably. I have seen clients become different people overnight as they realise they have become too important and began the process of letting it go.
So important they couldn't possibly have anything bad happen to their overly precious lives. They have become so serious that life is seen in such a dark and dangerous way. For some this is just in various areas such as socially, relationships or in work, but for others this is in all areas.
If you want to be like a ‘normal' person (well what we think is normal) then you have to realise and work on a few things.
You are not that important and like everyone else you can and will cope with anything negative that happens in your life. In fact you could take advantage of any negativity and use it to make your life wealthier in many areas. This is a skill you can learn in therapy with me.
When you become too important you are becoming too internalised which means you are making it all about you. Anything happening around you is about you apparently, despite people not even probably thinking much about you, you are creating a whole script of what they are thinking. You are making it all up to protect yourself as you don't believe you could handle it if someone actually does something to make you feel bad about yourself. Best if you do it before they do, at least you are in control then.
You need to learn to become more externalised to experience the world around you without reflecting it back inside and given extra meaning. To be honest most people around you are not that interested. When you walk into a social situation it is time to notice what is happening around you and not to make up what people are thinking about you. You really are not that important. They are lost in their own worlds and if they are thinking anything about you then it's their perception and nothing to do with you.
Therapy can help this process and also get to roots of what is causing you to think the world is so dangerous that you don't feel safe.
Safe is all you want to feel, that will never happen if you live on red alert scanning for illusionary danger.
Life is too short to live a life like this and if this issue affects you then please contact me for help and advice.
I specialise in stress, anxiety, panic, anger, confidence and self esteem issues using a combination of counselling, hypnotherapy, EFT, NLP, IEMT and MET in my office in Hove or online via Skype. Plenty of tools to deal with the stuff which holds you back in life.
Hunter or Prey?
Hunter or Prey?
Anxiety only happens when the mind is reacting as if you are in danger. This is how we evolved, people who feel they are at risk are acting as if they are prey as their limbic systems go into survival mode, flight or fight. Living a life with the attitude of feeling like prey can make life much harder than it could be. Prey can make excuses to as to why being prey is a better option, but that is just the fear talking. Fear motivates prey into their reactions of fight or flight. The hunter is pro-active more often than not.
The preys life tends to have these qualities:
Walking looking down at the floor missing the world around them lost in thought
Not wanting to be noticed
Internalising too much and making up the danger from what they think others are thinking around them
Predicting terrible futures where they or loved ones (also prey) are harmed
They isolate themselves to try and be safe which actually makes them feel more at risk
Victim, martyr
Tries to control the smallest of things
Nags, manipulates and bullies people through fear
Low self esteem
Angry, intolerant and frustrated and wants others to feel the same way they do
Blame, shame and guilt
Wanders from bad relationship to another
Health issues
Doesn't trust others due to that pesky inner voice of doom making up stories
Misses opportunities in life
All about them and have become way to important
What is helpful is to work at changing into your natural state as the reality is you are at the top of the food chain, so why act as if you are near the bottom. Your natural state is the hunter, gatherer.
Hunter, gatherer qualities are more likely to be:
The observer, watcher, curious and focused
Externalises and focus's on what is happening around them
Risk taker
Walks with head up watching and experiencing the world in a more present and mindful way
Strong
Confident
Healthy
Calm and relaxed attitude
Takes advantage of the good and bad that happens in life
Hunts and gathers the best qualities out of themselves and others
Doesn't bother to entertain fantasy thoughts of what other people could be thinking as it's a waste of time and energy
Doesn't bother to predict the future in a negative way as what is the point?
Encourages
Compassionate, understanding
Embraces their dark side as they know they are not perfect and will make mistakes
Being part of a community, creates connections in a symbiotic way
Healthy relationships develop more in the hunters life
Recognises they are important but not too important
We all can have hunter, prey qualities in various areas of our lives due to how our minds have been conditioned to see and experience the world. It is time to start becoming the hunter in more and more areas, only you will know what that will be like. Just imagine!
If you need help becoming the hunter instead of the prey contact contact me as it really is easier than your mind may think.
Wishing me Dead
I have been working hard to convince clients to ‘wish me dead,' over the past few months. This usually gets a few jaws to drop and the obligatory ‘are you mad?' comments.
I don't have a death wish as I love life, it's because I love life that I do this job and it would be wonderful if people loved life a little more too.
Yet powerful irrational beliefs can ruin and hold a person back from living the life they deserve. Some people are caught in a trap where they believe their thoughts can effect the universe around them. The believe that their negative thoughts will come back and haunt them with karma, bad luck or something harmful. The reality is of course they won't but yet the belief can seem so real. They are usually fuelled by religion, spirituality or new age nonsense which fuels superstitious fears. It really is easy to say that these beliefs are not harmful, but tell that to my clients who live in fear of them being real.
Books like The Secret by Rhonda Byrne or The Abraham Series by the Hicks are often a common link to why people believe their thoughts will manifest something. These brilliantly marketed books made the authors a fortune and they will keep on adding more secrets and more laws for people to follow as the dangling carrot promises to make their lives what they want it to be. Avoids these sorts of books at all costs, if you want to develop a better attitude and more positive outlook you can do it without this sort of hocus pocus.
After overcoming all the objections they may have and then getting the client to ‘wish me dead' they soon start to realise they don't have to have these sorts of powers they think they do. If we really could wish people harm and make it happen then people in the public eye would seriously be in trouble and Dictators would be dead in seconds with millions wishing them gone. The Government would have an assassination department with people just sat there wishing people dead, forget MI5 and spies! There is no evidence for mind power like this despite what some people will try to convince you and maybe it is time for you to try it yourself.
‘Could you wish me dead?'
Nothing will happen, even if you mean it or not, it will make no difference to my life at all.
Can you also stop your superstitious rituals? I mean who decides what is bad or good luck and who fulfils this for you. If your forgot to touch wood then who is tut tutting and making you pay for that?
Whilst some people say they are harmless fun, you can see the anxiety in their eyes when you test that theory. The ‘WHAT IF?' scenario plays out in their mind as they then think if I did die or they got some bad luck, that they were somehow responsible. This is not a healthy way to think at all and shouldn't be encouraged. Over time these beliefs can rule a persons mind and OCD like rituals can develop due to their magical thinking thought patterns. Experiments are the only way to realise that nothing will happen and even if by fluke it does it is nothing to do with you. YOU ARE NOT THAT IMPORTANT. YOU ARE NOT A GOD or GODDESS AND DO NOT HAVE SUPER POWERS WHICH CAN INFLUENCE THE WORLD LIKE THAT. WHAT HAPPENS IN THE WORLD IS NOT ABOUT YOU. This can create a huge release of tension and feelings of relief.
Once clients realise they are not that powerful, that important, and what happens is not about them, they can come back to reality and work towards being calmer, relaxed and happier person.
Stop the superstitious rituals, challenge your beliefs and know that thoughts are just thoughts no matter how dark, weird or wonderful.
Laugh with and at yourself.
Life is too short not to.
